There
has been a constant myth surrounding the issue of ‘first love’ and the
fact (or should I say theory) that you never get over them. Could this
be true? Are
there really people we can’t get over in terms of relationship? There
are various reasons why people don’t end up with their first loves. The
reason could be genuine or flimsy. Two of such reasons are painted in
the scenarios below. Although, this is inconclusive, there are still
varied, genuine or complex reasons why people don’t end up with the
‘first’ real persons their heart beat for. Ok…you
had this dashing gentleman falling all over you, and for a while he
seemed like the perfect fit for you – the missing rib. All of a sudden,
you discover during pre-marital counselling/checks that you have
genotype incompatibility. You both walk away with heavy hearts but still
madly in love with each other. Years later, both of you are married to
different people but the feelings come rushing back for real each time
you run into each other across town. You are already hugging, almost
kissing and cracking old jokes before you know it.
Or you fell in love with a great dude, the feeling was mutual. He was
everything you wished for in a man, he could go the extra mile for you.
You were sure that the relationship was heading towards marriage. But,
life happened and for whatever flimsy excuse, guy impregnated his side
chick and you were devastated. You wondered where you went wrong. Guy
seemed to love you endlessly. The funny thing is, he still came back for
you after marrying the girl. He obviously isn’t so in love with her.
And you can’t get over him either. He makes your head spin and your
heart melt just by hearing his voice. He regrets marrying her, he calls
you up night and day. He’s not asking to marry you but he feels safe
with you, he talks about the good times, he shares all his dreams and
aspirations with you.
Hmmm,
what is it about first loves that is so binding? Why do people say they
can’t get over their first love? Is it really true you can’t get over a
first love if you’ve ever had one? I know people who dated and married
only one person – the only guy who asked them out. They had no exes or
heartbreak whatsoever. But for people who went through the dating
experience – had some heartbreaks, but are now in a good place, happily
married or happily dating or happily unattached at the moment – what was
your experience about first love?
Does
it really exist? The interesting part is that some people would have
dated 2 or 3 people before meeting the love of their lives, the one who
knocks them off their feet and they classify the one they really love as
their ‘first’, even though he/she didn’t actually come first in their
dating life.
To
the married or dating, do you secretly yearn for your first love or you
still relish the memories in private? If you are dating someone other
than your first love, do you sometimes wish you could go back to him or
her?
Well, all i can say is Once you meet someone better, you will get over that first love fast fast LoL....
Culled from bellanaija...