Wednesday 8 July 2015

‘Daily Pains Of A Single Rich Guy’…29-Year Old Rich Banker Replies

Aww a 29-year old reader who is a female banker has deemed it fit to reply ‘the rich Lagos bachelor’ who highlighted the Daily Pains Of A Single Rich Guy In Lagos. According to her, she is also in a similar situation because she is rich and it has been hard finding the right guy. She highlighted all the points of the bachelor and replied right below each phrase. 

1. Many girls automatically assume that you are a player – Drive a nice car, wear good clothes, smell well and live in a comfortable house and many gals automatically tag you out as a player. undecided I have been told so many times by girls. One of my close friend had to quit a relationship because his girlfriend was just too insecure and didn’t trust him. sad My ex-gfs have also accused me of cheating even though I was never caught.

Response: This is unfortunate but its because most good girls are afraid they will get hurt. i love a man that takes care of himself and pays attention to details but Hollywood and social media has shown that once a guy looks good and drives nice cars, he a player. However I have hope that I will meet the strong, kind, ambitious and gentle man. Continue...

2. Many think you have a girlfriend – You walk up to a girl, chat her up and start off a conversation. You become her friend and eventually ask her out. She tells you to your face that she knows that you already have a girlfriend, and possibly a fiancée. She tells you that it is virtually impossible for you to be single with your current status. For goodness sake, what does my financial status has to do with my relationship life. I tire o. From that point onward, they hardly take you serious.

Response: This occurs because you meet a lot of fake ladies who have no self-confidence. They believe that since you are rich, you can only date or marry a rich lady and so you have come for just a fling.

3. Some girls are just interested in your money– Yes, many rich guys can testify to this. You meet lots and lots of female fraudster – we call them runs girls. angry They pretend to like you but all they are interested in is to get a share of your ‘national cake’ – your money. I can not count the number of times that girls (that I am still toasting) will be asking me to pay for their house rent, set up a business for them, etc when I am yet to start dating them. Even at the stage of friendship, some start asking for phones, Brazilian hairs and all kinds of stuffs. It’s annoying! Why is it so hard sometimes to meet a decent, good looking girl? I must confess not all girls are like that but many are.

Response: All I can say is, you have been meeting the wrong kind of women. It’s unfortunate but know that there are great ladies out there who want someone to love and care about. Women who can take care of themselves and all they desire is someone to share their heart with and support each other.

4. You spend more for your girlfriends – Girlfriends who have rich boyfriends expect their guys to spend more for them. You will find out that your broke male friends spend far less for their girlfriends ( and the girls appear to be contented), but in your case, your girlfriends expect that you ‘prove’ your love by spending your cash on them. If you don’t spend lavishly, you risk being tagged as ‘stingy’ cry

Response: This still boils down to the fact that you meet and date selfish ladies who want your money and love you for that only. Please note that Love is not self –seeking it is reciprocal, both parties much care for one another and it is the little things that matter.

5. Fine girls tend to play more ‘hard-to-get’ with the rich guys than the broke ones – YES! You heard me right. It’s surprisingly ironic, isn’t it? Fine girls tend to play hard to get with the rich guys because they want to been seen as decent and not after money. Many atimes, it’s just sheer pretence. Embarrassed. They pretend to be decent, good, domesticated. They may sometimes hide their promiscuous and cheap lifestyle because they assume that they have finally met the serious-minded rich guy. So, they want to appear like a good girl. Some may also play hard-to-get so that you can spend more during the toasting stage. Meanwhile, you find out that these girls keep rolling carelessly and freely with the not-so-rich guys in the neighborhood.

Response: As for this one, I do not have a response to this. All I know is there are serious minded ladies who are self-confidence and do not need to front, they speak their mind and have no reason to pretend.

6. You become paranoid. You find it hard to know who really loves you. You also tend to think the girls in your circle are only around because of your money. You become confused and it gets difficult to settle for a choice. It seems best to have settled for someone before you ‘made’ it. Embarrassed.

Response: I agree with you comfortable bachelor on this , because even as a lady I have become paranoid about guys because I believe all they see is the physical and because they feel I am ambitious, they see a cash cow to milk.

7. You may actually meet fewer number of good girls – You heard me right. You find out that you meet mostly bad and extremely extroverted girls. This is because the richer you get, the more isolated you may become. You drive your car, meaning that you do not meet ladies often in the bus or park. You do mostly online transfer meaning that you also miss out on ladies who visit the banks. You also are too busy to visit near-by higher insitutions where you can meet various chicks. We often live in very secured estates where everybody minds his/her own business further isolating us from meeting the real, ‘good’ gals out there. We tend to hang out in bars and clubs where you meet the highly extroverted, possibly bad gals. Gals in church are possibly worse-off too and not much better. Sigh…. cry

Response: I totally agree with you comfortable bachelor, I have been looking out for good guys but haven’t met any. I spend my weekends at home, sleeping or watching TV. I decided to start an MBA to keep myself occupied and am planning on doing other courses. It is crazy, churches are filled with pretentious human beings. An advice I hear always is to change my routine, change my church if I have to, change the place I hang out and meet new people. This is hard to do but you can give it a try also…..

8. You spend more than others to get a gal others would easily get with little cash – Another sad truth. Standards are set for you. While the not-so-rich guys will think twice before spending even less than 5k on a girl, you find yourself spending comparatively more for a gal. Due to your class, you have minimum standards for yourself, and you find it hard to go below it as it has become part of your lifestyle. First impression matters a lot for women. When you take a lady on a date within your ‘minimum standard ‘which may be very ordinary to you, she may become carried away with the lavishness. She often steps up her game so as not to appear cheap. cool

Response: This is because you chose to, you always want to impress the lady, even though it is good to have class and taste but you overdo it thus she starts to demand and then you start to complain. Keep it cool, do the little things like appreciate her, praise her, thank her, listen to her, gist with her …..These are the things that make a lady happy.

9. Your true personality is often buried beneath your financial strength sad – Rich guys are one of the most misunderstood persons. Sometimes, we just want to be ourselves. However, friends and hanger-bys tend to be insecure and intimidated around us and think of us only in terms of our money. You jokingly tease a girl, and she is quick to point out to you that ‘is it because you think you have money?’ Not only girls, even fellow friends around you will feel very insecure. Some do not want to introduce you to their girlfriends because they are afraid that you will snatch them away. You find street guys freely talking to these fine young girls, and nobody calls them names. If you do same, people tag you as arrogant, player, disrespectful, etc. All focus is on you. Gossips are directed towards you…hmm angry

Response: Comfortable bachelor, you do not have to take this kind of things to heart. Do not lower your standards for anyone, be your good self as long as money doesn’t define your behavior then forget what people say as in life, gossip is what keeps everyone going. Be the wonderful person I hope you are and someday when you are not even looking for, the lady will come along.

10. You find out the real, hard truth that money cannot buy true love. Of course, money plays a very big role as it can fuel and sustain true love but money can hardly get you true love. Money can get you a beautiful woman, but it can’t get you a decent, faithful and loyal girl. Ever rich, comfortable or even upcoming guy out there should focus more on building a personality that is attractive to ladies. I have been poor and loved by a lady unconditionally before. I am comfortable and have been hurt by a lady recently. I have been both poor and rich in my life. From my experience, I can very well say that LIKEABLE PERSONALITY COMES BEFORE MONEY.

Response: I'm glad you realized this truth. For that reason it means you have become a better person and I know the bone of your bone will come along.

I will leave you, Comfortable Bachelor with this text:  Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres (1 Corinthians 13: 4-7).

I will like to meet you someday if possible.